Domestic bliss simply refers to a home environment where you are loved and accepted just as you are.
If you landed on this post, you’re most likely asking the all-important question, “What is domestic bliss and how can I have it in my life?”.
For many people, domestic bliss is synonymous with wedded bliss. You get married and then you live happily ever after.
Whilst a happy marriage is certainly part of that (because you can’t really have domestic bliss if you’re unhappy in this most intimate partnership), the truth is that domestic bliss is far more inclusive.
And this post is all about enhancing our definition to reflect the fact that in these modern times, not everyone gets married anymore and yet everyone is still looking for – and I firmly believe entitled to – domestic bliss.
Side Note: For more information on bliss – what it is, what it feels like, why you absolutely need it and how you can get it in your life, check out the resources below.
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How To Live A Blissful Life – Discover how to live the blissful life you deserve, why you need to start with your mind in order to succeed and what you need to do to prepare yourself for success.
What is domestic bliss (and what it isn’t)
As I wrote in the previous section, contrary to what most people think, domestic bliss doesn’t just mean finding happiness in marriage or even in another type of intimate partnership.
Domestic bliss – whether you’re living on your own, with a partner or with children – is a human right.
Everyone is entitled to it, which is essentially nothing more than a family situation where you are accepted exactly as you are – faults and all.
Let me repeat that.
You don’t need to hide your weaknesses.
You don’t need to pretend to be strong at all times.
You can remove the mask that you show the rest of the world, knowing that you are and always will be celebrated, that your every emotion and every feeling will be validated and accepted, that your heart will be protected and cherished.
It’s a place, a state where you are securely loved, honoured, valued.
Caveat: We’re not talking about perfection here.
Domestic bliss doesn’t mean never fighting with your partner or another family member.
It does mean disagreeing with respect and aiming to resolve differences in a way that does not railroad the other.
Domestic bliss doesn’t mean never worrying about anything ever again.
It does mean knowing the difference between useless worrying and constructive problem-solving.
Domestic bliss doesn’t mean no one ever gets hurt anymore.
It does mean that when someone does get hurt, they know that the other has always got their back, that forgiveness will always be given and that each person will always strive to be better partners for the other.
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Why do we need to create domestic bliss?
No wonder, people are having a hard time believing that they can be wealthy and happy.
I believe that we can help each other create our own domestic bliss.
We can shape our domestic lives so that we don’t treat our partners and children as enemies and we look at ourselves with all the admiration that each of us deserves.
We can be thoughtful and generous towards others but also towards ourselves.
We can stop looking at people who may seem different from us on the surface and realise that they are fundamentally the same – they live and breathe and hope and fear and love.
Here at Live A Blissful Life, we believe that the dream of a better world begins in the four walls of our homes, in how we treat ourselves and how we treat our family and in our ability to create domestic bliss.
FAQ about domestic bliss
The following answers are brief responses to really important questions. Posts that tackle these in more depth will be linked as they are created.
Domestic bliss 1: Where do I start?
We all know what happens when we think that something involves too much work, right? Most of us back off and never make the attempt.
After you’ve created some extra time, you need to find out your domestic bliss “base level” – where you are now, like when you get a stock inventory but you count feelings rather than things.
You’ll need to be very honest here.
How do you really feel about your current situation and what do you really need to make it better?
If you notice, the prep work you need to do is almost the same as when you’re creating a blissful life in general and not only domestic bliss, in particular.
The reason is the same.
As Jim Rohn said, “People who don’t plan, plan to fail.“
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Remember Abraham Lincoln: “If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend the first four hours sharpening the axe.”
Winston Churchill: “Plans are of little importance, but planning is essential.”
And finally Stephen Keague: “Proper planning and preparation prevent poor performance.”
Domestic bliss 2: What do I do if my partner isn’t interested in domestic bliss?
We’ll have to answer with a quote from Gandhi, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.”
No, we cannot force someone else to change so we’ll need to let go of the expectation that other people should change because we think they should.
That said, we can change ourselves. Most often, this will pique other people’s curiosity enough to make them want to try it too.
So, focus on yourself first.
Do your own inner work.
Find out who you really are – you know, the person buried beneath the many responsibilities, expectations and disappointments life has heaped on you.
Craft from this knowledge, the rules you want to live by.
Fall in love with yourself, completely and totally.
And then, approach your significant other from this place of love. You’d be surprised at the difference this can make."If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.” – Gandhi Click To Tweet
It’s possible that they’re only resisting because they don’t know exactly what kind of change you want to implement within your home.
Do you want to transform your house into a home – more than just a physical structure but also a sanctuary for every person who comes to visit?
Again, communication is key.
Remember that a good part of creating domestic bliss is a harmonious relationship with your nearest and dearest. That includes any partner and children you may have.
So, broach the subject. Talk to them properly. And who knows, you might even come away with a set of home rules that each member of the family is happy enough to comply with.
Side Note: If you suspect (or know for sure) that you are in an abusive relationship, please, please, please seek immediate advice from professionals. Falling in love with yourself might lead you to think that it’s best to disassociate from your partner and that process needs to be handled with care.
The Ultimate Guide to Self Love – The only post you’ll find that will give you all the information you need to finally fall in love with your own worthy self.
Meditation for Self Love – The best meditation to help you fall in love with yourself. If you’ve never listened to this before, you need to do so now. I included the script so you can also use it as an affirmation.
Top Self Love Resources – Clue’s in the name. These are the top resources I recommend to anyone wanting to discover and cultivate self love, possibly for the first time ever.
How To Date Yourself – Want to focus on yourself but haven’t got a clue what to do? This has got you covered with easy to implement ideas that will soon get you partying with the best person ever: yourself.
The Five Major Pieces To The Life Puzzle – A proper goldmine of information that is relevant to anyone wishing to live a blissful, purpose-filled life.
I especially love Chapter II: Attitude where Jim Rohn says that “how we feel is influenced by our associations” and I feel that this part is particularly relevant when you wish to create domestic bliss because it gives a clear strategy on how to deal with these relationships.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – The best resource anyone involved with an intimate partner can consult. If you feel that your relationship is not as good as it can be or if you suspect that there is something going wrong, then this is the best book for you.
Pay close attention to the four horsemen and examine your relationship to see if they’re there. Then implement the recommended strategies as and when needed.
Domestic bliss 3: I have kids from hell, what do I do?
Ah, kids. We love them. We hate them. And we love them again. What is it with kids that they trigger so much mixed emotions in their parents?
This is a loaded question and one that really deserves an in-depth answer.
“For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along.
Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples.
In the event that a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even greater negative impacts on their relationship.“
In this case, what do you do?
It’s important to first check your own language. Why do you think your kids are from hell? What specific behaviour and attitudes do they exhibit that make you think they are a factor in your domestic bliss?
The answers to these questions will prove enlightening.
Are your kids really misbehaving and if they are, are there external factors involved?
Is it perhaps a case of basic biology clashing with parental and societal expectations?
Could you have neurodiverse kids that need a unique touch?
Or maybe, it’s just a matter of adjusting your communication so you can be a more effective parent?
If this is what worries you, you’d probably benefit from learning how to be more peaceful without being less effective and how to communicate your feelings without causing power struggles.
Seriously, do you really need to say no that many times and in such a way (yeah, you know what we mean – exasperated, annoyed, angry)?
Do you get fed up with your children being boisterous and end up snapping at them to shut up?
Are you unable to unbend a little bit when they need your compassion and instead of empathising, you instead tell them to stop crying?
Is it really the kids?
Or is it the stress of meeting daily commitments impacting your mental health, making you unable to enjoy their childish antics?
Do you need to take a breather and spend more time just loving yourself?
Or perhaps this is the kind of relationship you have with yourself and so, you pass it on to your own children?
How To Be A Peaceful Parent – This post contains the 10 things you absolutely need to know when you’re transitioning from traditional parenting to one filled with respect for your child as a person.
If you’re used to spanking, humiliating, manipulating and such negative forms of interaction with your child but want to move away from it, then this is a must-read.
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Domestic bliss 4: Can I create domestic bliss when I have no time or energy?
The answer is a resounding yes!
In fact, once you embark on the process, you actually start creating more time.
Yes, yes, we know that 24 hours a day is a given and you can’t really add to it. But, what if we tell you that those 24 hours are enough?
You can do everything you need and still have a life.
Intriguing, isn’t it?
Domestic bliss 5. How can I create domestic bliss when I’m buried in debt?
Oh, we feel you.
Really, we do.
We know what it’s like to be in debt and trying to survive on only one income. It’s not easy. At all.
It’s a great source of stress and it’s almost impossible to stop worrying about it – especially if the bills keep coming whilst your income dwindles.
You really need to do a lot of work to get yourself out of it.
First, you need to know your numbers and then put a financial plan in place.
Keep going and don’t give up.
But equally important, be gentle with yourself. Many people end up in debt for the simple reason that we don’t really get taught how to manage our finances whilst growing up.
So, pick yourself up and give yourself a tight hug. You’ve got this!
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If you’re a parent or planning to be a parent, the resources in this post are a must-read for you.
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Final thoughts on domestic bliss
Creating domestic bliss is something everyone can do, maybe not easily but certainly simply.
And it’s a lot of fun!
It doesn’t matter if you’re single, married or in a partnership.
It doesn’t matter if you have kids or you don’t. It doesn’t matter if you have a lot of money or are barely scraping by.
We can all create domestic bliss as long as we know how.
This is what this blog is about.
Join us on our journey and let our journey support yours!
How about you? What is your idea of domestic bliss and what do you do to create it? Write some of your ideas down and let’s start supporting each other!
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in February 2019 and has been completely revamped and updated for relevance and comprehensiveness.