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  1. Self Love is the root, the inner core, of life to me. I love how you reference perfection and external value. I struggled with that for years. I felt like I had to be at a certain level in my life by age milestones or I was not doing well. Today I am content in my skin exactly where I am. I do not seek others’ approval. That did not mean I quit having dreams or goals. I still move towards what I want in life. I have initiated some boundaries – which was a foreign word to me – for a long time. I was passive and did not speak how I felt or what I needed. I was a people pleaser and am so glad that has left me. It took time and a lot of practice. Thank you for sharing self-love from all the angles. I really learned some things I need to look at.


    1. Thank you for sharing your experience, Lisa. I too was a people-pleaser and to a certain extent, I still am. It’s so difficult to get rid of and I need to always be on guard. I’m happy you found this post helpful.

  2. I can relate to this because many times I have suffered because I thought I was doing those things out of my love for others that I have sacrificed my own happiness for the welfare of others. There were instances where I forced myself to do extraordinary things just to prove to a girl that I love her to the point that I went weird and not likable. In the end, I suffered the consequences. This article is an eye-opener to me, as it opened a new view of how to start loving others by starting with myself. Thanks a lot and more power with you.

    1. You’re welcome and thank you for sharing your experience. It’s not easy to put yourself first when everyone keeps telling you that doing so is selfish. I think we could all benefit from loving ourselves the way we’re supposed to love other people. 

  3. Self-love is something I’ve struggled with my whole life. For a decade now I’ve been battling my own demons in the form of depression and social anxiety. How do I love myself? I have absolutely no idea. I’m only about one third of the way through your article but it’s impressive. Thank you for writing such a comprehensive guide on how to love yourself, much appreciated. 

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