How Do I Practice Peaceful Parenting: 10 Things You Need To Know
“The peace in peaceful parenting comes from you and your ability to regulate your own emotions,” says Dr. Laura Markham.
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The best way to become a more peaceful parent is to first know what goes on behind the scenes. Why does your child act the way she does? The secret lies in her mind.
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Peaceful parent. Traditional parent. Helicopter parent. Permissive parent. Elephant parent. Tiger parent. Which one are you?
If you’re a new parent, then all these terms – with the judgment and condemnation that come with them – must be quite confusing and frankly, sometimes, downright scary.
You never had a child before and now you do.
You’re suddenly 100% responsible for the survival of this tiny human who needs to be taught how to navigate this weirdly wonderful world we live in.
You look for advice because you don’t want to screw it all up and realise that everybody is saying so many different things. And they all claim to be experts!
Heck, what do you do?
For many parents, the traditional answer that you’re given is that you need to strive for blind obedience – make sure that your child will do exactly as you say when you say it. When they’re doing what you say, praise and reward them.
When they’re not doing what you say, then you do whatever it takes to get them to comply: create consequences in the form of time out, removal of privileges, yelling, shaming, spanking, or even withdrawal of love and attention.
But if you’re reading this post, then you know that there is a better way to bribing your child with external tokens of affection or punishing them using force.
You know that using those things will only erode your relationship with your child, rendering them ineffective in the long run.
You know that your child is not the enemy and doesn’t deserve to be treated as if he were.
You want to be a loving and nurturing parent without raising entitled children who throw tantrums if they don’t get what they want.
You want to forge a deep connection with your child that reflects just how much you love him so that when he grows up, he can think for himself, instead of bowing down to external pressure.
You want to raise a self-disciplined child, who makes the right choices because they are right and not because she could get caught.
Fortunately, studies have shown time and again that this approach – Dr. Laura Markham’s peaceful parenting approach – will help you achieve these kinds of parenting goals.
It’s especially effective the earlier you start and in fact, responsive relationships help babies grow into securely attached toddlers that want to cooperate with their parents rather than defy them.
In other words, peaceful parenting for toddlers usually translates to a parent-child relationship where you actually enjoy each other’s company.
In fact, based on personal experience, teaching a 3-year-old the fine art of self-discipline required (and keeps on requiring) a strong connection between the two of us – the hallmark of peaceful parenting.
Honestly, I can barely remember those times when our child deliberately defied us or refused to cooperate.
He’s a strong-willed child and knows what he wants but he also usually wants to cooperate.
Obviously, sometimes he’s too tired or grumpy to cooperate. Sometimes, he’s just too engrossed in his play.
But most of the time, when we ask him to do something, he complies or tells me politely why he can’t do it now, or suggests another plan that he both could be happy with.
But what about those times when he just doesn’t want to cooperate? Or you don’t have time to wait for a consensus?
Well, those are usually the times when we haven’t been as connected as usual and he was rebelling against the distance.
And as for lack of time, health and safety trumps everything.
If, for example, your child tries to run after the ball into incoming traffic, you don’t have time to talk to him about the merits of staying put. You just act: grab the child’s hand and pull him back.
When the tears come, as they surely will because the child would’ve gotten a fright from your sudden action, you foster your connection and hold them close.
Once you’re both calm, then you talk about the importance of staying on the path and the potential consequences of running into the road.
Side Note: This is not the time to start swatting your child to “teach him a lesson”.
Spanking is never a good idea anyway, no matter how good it makes you feel afterwards.
In fact, spanking, according to the Office Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, is a strong predictor of violent behaviour. In other words, children who were spanked more frequently at age 3 were much more likely to be aggressive by age 5.
So, the question now is, what do you do when you started out using punishment and reward and then discovered that it’s not the kind of parent you wish to be?
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This book is designed to help parents better understand and regulate their own emotions so that they can become more peaceful and, therefore, parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication.
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✦ Express and understand complex emotions
✦ Break through shyness, anger, and fear
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✦ Play their way through sibling rivalry
✦ Cooperate without power struggles
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What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them, fostering cooperation rather than forcing compliance.
The powerful, and largely unknown, research that Kohn includes in this book is truly paradigm-shattering and shows the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval.
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✦ Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
✦ Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
✦ Engage your child’s willing cooperation
✦ Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
✦ Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
✦ Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
✦ Resolve family conflicts peacefully
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What to expect when you shift to peaceful parenting
Just like with any kind of change, shifting your parenting approach from the traditional to more peaceful takes a lot of time and patience.
Expect resistance and wariness from everyone in the family as you all adjust to the changing dynamics.
Your children, especially if they were used to being in the receiving end of punishment, will most likely be a little confused and will start testing boundaries – appearing to act up worse than they did before.
You’ll then probably start worrying that you’re making things worse but actually, what’s really happening is that your child is beginning to show you repressed feelings from the past.
All the pain that they’ve suffered – along with the loneliness and sense of powerlessness that came with it – when they were yelled at or punished will come pushing to the fore.
The negative feelings won’t always be coming from your children.
Many, if not most, of the feelings that you need to work on, will come from you.
As you start moving away from more traditional forms of parenting, you might begin to feel guilty for the way you were before you discovered peaceful parenting.
You will all need to be more compassionate and empathetic, not only to other members of the family but most importantly, to yourselves.
Ditch the guilt.
Know better do better, remember?
Now you know better and can make a completely different parenting choice. If you feel that you need to make amends to repair your relationship with your children, then start by helping them heal those hurts so you can all move on.
Remember that feeling bad doesn’t help anyone act “good”. That’s true for your child and for you too.
Ready and looking forward to moving towards a more peaceful relationship with your child?
Let’s take a look at the tips below.
How do I practice peaceful parenting?
The ten tips below will help you transition from the more traditional types of parenting and parenting dynamic – “I’m the parent, that’s why!” or “You do as I say or else!” into one where you relate to your child the way you’d want your child to relate with you: with respect and fairness.
This won’t always be easy as peaceful parenting demands so much more from parents: self-awareness, self-control, the ability to regulate your own emotions and a certain kind of grace when reacting under pressure (and let’s face it, parenting is a lot of pressure).
So, keep the following tips in mind as you transition to a more peaceful relationship with yourself and with your children.
According to Dr. Laura Markham, “the “peace” in peaceful parenting comes from you and your ability to regulate your own emotions.”
In other words, you choose to be at peace with yourself and with others – especially your children.
To succeed at this, you need to cultivate self-awareness.
This kind of mindfulness requires you to study yourself and find out exactly what triggers your negative emotions. And why.
What exactly do you feel when your 2-year old says no? Some parents feel enraged and some don’t. What do you feel and do you know why you feel that way?
Whenever you’re upset (or angry or helpless or experience any other negative emotion), you need to stop, take a step back from your rioting emotions and breathe as deeply as you can for as long as you can before speaking or taking action.
Notice the feelings in your body.
Do not let yourself get hijacked by the feelings of urgency that a particular situation is triggering.
Delay taking action until you feel calmer – unless of course, safety issues demand otherwise.
Deep breathing will slow your racing heart and help you get a grip on any strong emotions you may be feeling.
This, in turn, helps you be more present, become more fully aware of the reasons for your feelings and the possible consequences of your actions.
Most importantly, it removes you from the grip of the flight or fight response.
This is really the essence of peaceful parenting and takes a lot of practice, especially if you have never learned how to manage your emotions before (trust me, I know).
As you become more aware of your own thoughts and emotions, your own triggers and trauma, you’ll begin to realise exactly why you react in a certain way to what your children do.
Often, this has nothing to do with their actions per se but more to do with your own emotions and your own ability (or inability) to regulate them effectively.
Cultivating self-awareness is extremely hard.
It requires your willingness to examine your every feeling and every thought, to acknowledge that you need to work on yourself more than you need to work on your child and to admit that you need to develop better impulse control if you want to be more peaceful.
It also requires a lot of self-care and this, in turn, requires you to love yourself.
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Connect with your child.
Without connection, peaceful parenting is impossible.
Actually, without connection, effective parenting isn’t possible at all.
That’s why you need to start building up your bond before you make any changes. Spend more focused time with your child.
Start small. Spend at least 15 minutes of one-on-one activity with each child daily.
Follow his lead. If he wants to play with you, then play whatever game he chooses. If he wants to read a book, let him choose which one and read together. If he wants to go outside, ask him if he wants to walk or go on his bike.
Shower him with your love. Tell him you missed him. Ask him about his day. How did it go? What did he like most about it?
Make daily deposits in your child’s bank account of love. You’ll be surprised at the difference this alone makes.
Keep in mind that if you don’t foster connection, you’ll most likely stop punishing, which is a good thing, yes but then your child still won’t feel motivated to listen to you.
She’ll feel lost and will most likely end up testing your boundaries to discover how far she can go before you start reverting to your old tactics of punishing.
Communicate your intention.
Hold a family meeting and include everyone in the plan. This is especially important when you have older children who can give and receive input.
If you’ve been yelling and spanking for the past 15 years and then suddenly stop and start telling your teenager how much you love him, he will be understandably suspicious of your motivations.
Talk about what you’ve been trying to do.
Say something along the lines of, “You know how I used to (insert punishment here) when you (insert wrongdoing here)? Have you noticed that I’ve not done that in a while? I’m so sorry that I’ve gotten into the bad habit of treating you that way. I hope you know that I love you so much and I thought I was doing the right thing. But you don’t deserve to be treated that way, no matter what.“
For many parents, this is a difficult task. You’re not supposed to apologise to our kids because it makes you look weak. It makes you look as if you don’t know what you’re doing.
But actually, this is a great learning experience for our children.
You are modelling a great way to repair a damaged relationship – a skill that will be useful the older they get.
In this meeting, you can also talk about the household rules that are important to you as a family. Perhaps you might even consider creating a family manifesto that includes all of your ideas.
If you realise you still believe in the same rules that you all thought important before, then this is your chance to emphasise that whilst the rules are the same, there will be no punishment – only the chance to repair the damage that comes from breaking the rules.
Promise that you will do your best to abide by the rules you created. If it’s important for you to that your child talks to you respectfully, you need to model that behaviour. Talk to your child respectfully too instead of yelling at him.
At the same time, expect the same behaviour from your child. Talk about what this means for both you and him.
Of course, this will all be new to you so make space for mistakes. Your child will lose control sometimes. So will you.
Above all, be compassionate and empathetic towards yourself and every other member of the family.
Transitioning to peaceful parenting can have a steep learning curve.
Go for the win.
Do what you can to avoid taking sides.
We all know how that goes.
You come in to see your children engaged in a full-blown sibling war, both screaming, crying and pointing fingers.
Child 1: She hit me!
Child 2: She started it!
Child 1: No, I didn’t. You did.
Child 2: No, you did.
And so on.
If you’re already exhausted beyond belief, this could be the straw that breaks the proverbial camel’s back.
Resist the impulse to take the younger sibling’s side (most of us automatically do this because we expect the older to know better).
Remember how that felt like when you were younger? Didn’t it reek of unfairness and favouritism?
Or what about the legendary, “I don’t care who started it, I’m ending it!”
Whilst that might end the argument, it doesn’t really teach your children anything. Neither does it help them feel better or breach the gap between them.
So, what can you do?
Well, instead of taking sides or ignoring both sides, see if you can find a way to make it a win-win for everyone.
Find out what happened before jumping in.
Listen to what both children have to say.
Acknowledge their feelings and empathise with them. Say something like, “Oh, I can imagine how annoying that must have been.”
Then problem-solve and involve both children in looking for solutions (if they’re both verbal), “what can we do to avoid this problem?”
Set firm limits.
As you begin to see things from your child’s perspective, you’ll notice that you become a lot more flexible and more forgiving.
When you understand that your child splashing water from the bath is just her being a toddler and not her deliberately making your life hellish, you won’t get mad so quickly.
That said, you still have to set firm limits.
You’re parenting peacefully after all, not permissively.
What you need to do though is to set the limit before you lose your temper. Don’t wait until you’re about to explode before trying to stop unwanted behaviour.
That’s a recipe for disaster.
Whilst your sense of humour is still intact and you can still respond with grace and empathy, set a firm limit and ensure compliance.
“Oh darling, I can see how happy you are with splashing water everywhere. I wish I could let you just splash to your heart’s content. The problem is, it makes it so hard for me to clean the bathroom afterwards so I’d have to ask you to keep the water in the tub.“
“Oh, you seem to be having such a hard time stopping the splashing. It’s so much fun, isn’t it? Come on then, bath time is over. We’ll try again tomorrow.”
There. Limit set and enforced with no shaming involved.
Repair not punish.
You’ve been punishing for every rule that your child breaks and now you’ve decided that you’re not going to, so what’s your alternative?
What do you do when your child breaks a rule?
Teach him to repair the damage.
But not in the moment.
When you’re in the thick of it all and emotions are running high, it’s difficult to think straight. That’s true for you and for your child, too.
Wait until everyone has calmed down and then, have a private discussion with your child about what happened.
Remember that this is a discussion. You’re not there to lecture or berate your child.
Empathise – “I saw how mad you got when he did that…It’s not easy living with a baby.”
Wait until after your child has expressed the emotions that caused him to act up before showing him the damage that his actions have caused.
It’s imperative that you don’t shame or blame him.
Instead, look for ways to repair the damage, “When you yelled at your sister, it really scared her and hurt her feelings. What can we do to make it better?”
Help your child see that he can repair his mistakes and problem-solve together. “Why don’t you ask your sister if doing (child’s idea) would help?”
This is far more effective in the long run than punishing (which makes them defiant) or forcing an apology (which leads to resentment).
What if he says no?
If he’s still experiencing pain, then he won’t be able to move forward to wanting to repair his relationship.
Make sure you aren’t lecturing or appearing to take sides or judging him.
Ensure that you’re really seeing his perspective.
Listen and empathise. And ask him what can be done to repair the hurt he is feeling.
Expect big emotions.
Humans, no matter what the age, will always have big emotions. That’s normal.
Don’t shy away from it. Or worse, make your child feel bad for experiencing them.
Children, especially very young children, don’t have the required brain structure to handle big emotions in any other way except throwing a glorious tantrum.
Punishing them for that is punishing them for being young.
Worse, when children are punished, they learn that those big emotions will get them into trouble. And that if they don’t want to be in trouble, they need to pretend that they don’t experience these emotions.
Does that work?
No. Not with adults and certainly not with children.
The jealousy, frustration, fear, anger, need and every single terrifyingly negative emotions are still there, just waiting for the slightest trigger.
Punishing your child scares them into keeping emotions under wraps, which means once you stop punishing, those emotions will come rushing out to be healed.
Don’t take it personally.
Your child acting out doesn’t mean that you’re a bad parent or that they’re deliberately insulting you or flouting your authority or being disrespectful or any other lie we tell ourselves.
When your child misbehaves, he does so because she has feelings that she doesn’t have words for.
She doesn’t have the capacity to say, “You said that you’d leave me at the mall and I was so scared that you would. I couldn’t help myself. I was so exhausted and I just wanted a cuddle from you. But instead, you yelled at me. I acted like I didn’t care, but I was terrified inside. I’m still so scared, it’s awful. So I lash out to keep those feelings down.“
No child – actually, no person – could or would tell you that, even if it’s true.
Hence, the misbehaving.
“Every attack is a cry for help,” writes Marianne Williamson in A Return To Love.
That’s especially true for children.
What you need to remember is that, as the adult, it is your responsibility to help your child work through her negative feelings so that they no longer feel compelled to “misbehave”.
To get to the root of the matter, your child needs to know that he can safely allow the explosion of his emotions without losing his parents’ love.
When he’s in the middle of a meltdown, remember to stay calm.
Don’t take it personally.
When you can feel yourself getting swept away along with your child’s emotions, try reminding yourself that your child isn’t giving you a hard time – he’s having a hard time.
The more compassionate and accepting you are, the more your child will feel safe enough to show you the pain driving his anger. Once he’s expressed them with you through laughter, tears or sometimes (though rarely) words, those upsetting feelings will dissipate.
You’re human, so you’re not perfect. Neither is your child.
The secret to parenting peacefully is having compassion – for yourself and for your child.
You’ll make mistakes.
Some days will still be a struggle.
If you find yourself struggling with loving your child because you can’t love yourself, then I highly recommend making Lisa Nichols Discovering Your Worthiness Meditation a part of your daily life.
Listen to it as often as you need.
From personal experience, this has been especially effective when trying to work on feelings of guilt and shame. I believe this will help you too.
Finally, remember that parenting is hard. And if you’re just transitioning from a different type of parenting, then the first few days and weeks will be especially hard.
But it does get easier, as you and your child begin to strengthen your connection with each other.
Eventually, you’ll notice that there are much less drama and a lot more love.
Yes, as a parent, you’re extremely busy.
You really need something that works and you need it to work now.
I’ll have to disappoint you on this one. Parenting is a long-term game. Any shortcuts you take now will have repercussions far into the future.
So, expect that this will take time, that there are no shortcuts and that you’ll need to commit to your goal every single day.
Of course, your goal is a happier, more peaceful family and you’re already on the right path. Does it matter if it takes two months or two years? You’ll still get to you where you want to go.
Here are three daily commitments that you can practice:
1. Commit to not yelling.
2. Commit to staying calm.
3. Commit to choosing love.
Final thoughts on peaceful parenting
There are a lot of misconceptions about peaceful parenting.
In fact, one person I met even said that whenever she hears “peaceful parenting”, she immediately assumes that there is no parenting happening at all because a parent who doesn’t get angry, annoyed or emotional is a parent who isn’t too invested in the outcome.
It’s also often confused with permissive parenting, where the parent becomes subject to the whims of the child.
The truth is, peaceful parenting is possibly the hardest and most demanding kind of parenting there is.
It asks so much of the parent – so much knowledge of self, so much control, so much emotional regulation, so much grace.
It takes time and practice.
It takes a lot of self-confidence since you will have to face people’s misinformed advice.
It takes courage because you’ll have to come face-to-face with the way you were parented.
And it takes love – a whole lot of love for who you are, the child you were and the parent you are now and before you discovered peaceful parenting.
If you want more information about what peaceful parenting is and how you can transition to it, I personally recommend the following books.
You won’t regret it.
Are you a peaceful parent? Or have you tried transitioning to peaceful parenting?
Let us know what your experiences have been by commenting below. We’d love to hear from you!
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in June 2019 and has been completely revamped and updated for relevance and comprehensiveness.
I have 3 children ages 20,18 & 2 , my first two were so easy , but my youngest has been a constant battle from a newborn. I am a single mother with him but not with my first two, which I’m sure has a bearing as I am usually 24/7 with him , no breaks , as well as more tired (being older & on my own , he is very set in his ways and when I ask him to do something if he doesn’t want to will make a huge scene and the more I try and get him to comply the harder he does the opposite , he is a sweetheart charming and adorable , but when told no he yells, hits , bangs his head , runs away , throws things , and will carry on and on and on , I try changing the subject or calmly explaining or. Giving him choices these rarely work .its not enjoyable going shopping or for walks or to the park because every time involves a fit in one form or another…I get so frustrated by bedtime I’m just miserable. I have tried all your suggestions before reading your blog , but I am going to try again and make sure I apply all of them and consistently . I hope for positive results because u am getting so tired of his behavior and mine .
Hi Amy, that sounds so hard. I’m so sorry, you’re having to go through that. I can only imagine how hard it must be. Is there any chance at all that you have alternative childcare just so you can have some time for yourself? It’s possible that your child is picking up your exhaustion and, of course, when you’re tired, everything seems 10x harder. Sending you virtual hugs! x
If absolutely no punishment works so well why don’t we treat adults the same way ? After all we all learn. Why do we have adult punishment ??
Anything in excess is harmful. Children can not reason like a responsible adult and you should not expect them to. Parenting is teaching your children to be a contribution to society. They must learn to take responsibility for their actions. Society demands consequences for actions taken by an individual (good actions or bad). The child should learn this. There is a time and place for most everything (in moderation).
Interesting. And would you say that adult punishment works? Given the massive increase in the prison population?
What a wonderful set of tips. I recognize the parent and child perspective (close to my mother). Especially the communicate and create safety. Those are so important to a child’s development and for everyone’s enjoyment.
Firstly, thanks for your book recommendations. To be honest, I cannot get enough out of this site and I just kept on reading virtually all the articles because they are powerful and knowledge bound. Being a parent requires serious work and commitment on the part of an individual. Being a parent myself, I could relate well with most things stated on this post and the part I want to talk about the most is making commitment part. Being a parent requires making sacrifices and commitments not to do certain things and several precautions to prevent breaking the commitments. I have some that I made and I have been keeping up with. Though it may be difficult to abide with at first but overtime, it becomes very way to follow.
Thank you for your kind words. We’re happy that the information we provide is proving valuable for you. 🙂
Someone told me before that a commitment is one we make daily. We don’t make a promise once and that’s enough. It isn’t. Parenting, like marriage vows, is a promise, a commitment and requires daily affirmation.
It’s hard work because, as you say, it requires a lot of sacrifices but totally worth it.
As parents, we not only want what’s best for our children, we also want them to grow up into upstanding citizens that offer a positive contribution to their society.
Thank Kevin and Jade for sharing such great information. Been a parent for the first time it’s not easy, you need always to communicate with the baby who has the needs but doesn’t know how to communicate. A baby is all the time learning something from their parents hence parenting for the first will never be easy because you never know and not sure of how you are rising your baby.
Thanks for the information
Hi Timeo, yes! We agree completely. Sometimes we wish they came with instructions and make it easier for us. 🙂