How to Write Your New Year’s Resolutions
Learn how to write your New Year’s Resolutions so you can actually achieve them.
Most people give up on their gseoals by the end of January. Be different. Read this post and learn how to write your New Year’s Resolutions – so you can finally become the person you’ve always wanted to be!
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It’s December, my friends. You know what that means, right?
No, I’m not just talking about Christmas (although it certainly can mean that).
In a hurry?
What I mean is, Christmas is almost upon us and once that day passes, the next thing that almost inevitably grabs our attention is the coming year – specifically, what we’re going to do about it.
Cue people wondering where the time has gone and what’s going to happen now that a new year has come.
This is the time that we start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions and start asking questions on how to make the best New Year’s resolutions list: What should my New Year’s resolution be? How do you set realistic New Year’s resolutions?
Does it make you shiver with excitement or with dread?
Ever since I discovered Jim Rohn, December always makes me think of him. In fact, I always end up watching (and re-watching) his seminar, How To Have The Best Year Ever, at about this time.
I’m including the YouTube video here (although I actually have The Ultimate Jim Rohn’s Library, available for free on Audible):
At around 2 hours and 39 minutes, he encourages the audience to develop their ability to reflect and gives specific times when it’s best to do so (more on his thoughts on reflection later).
According to Jim Rohn, one of the best times to reflect is at the end of the year.
Because I believe that this period is incredibly important (remember the importance of timing?), this post will be really long (just like our Ultimate Guide To Self Love) and jam-packed with all the information you’ll ever need to craft effective New Year’s resolutions that you can use as a springboard to greater and better things…to the blissful life you’ve always deserved.
You’ll need time and focus to not only finish this post but to get the most out of it.
So, bookmark this page and come back to it once you’ve managed to set aside some time. Take your journal with you, your favourite pen and hunker down.
You’re creating your best year ever, to borrow Jim Rohn’s phrase and this is going to be so freakin’ exciting! 🙂
You ready?
Alright! Let’s get to it.
What are New Year’s resolutions?
Obviously, no proper guide on the best New Year’s resolutions list will be complete without even a background on the all-time favourite question: What are New Year’s resolutions?
Simply put, New Year’s resolutions are decisions you make at the start of a new year to start or stop doing something that has an impact on your life.
In other words, it could be positive or negative.
You can either change an undesired trait or behavior (for example, overindulging in sweets) to a far more desirable one (eating an apple a day) or you can set a specific goal that you wish to accomplish that you think might improve your life (focusing on self-love).
A list of New Year’s resolutions is wholly subjective as different people obviously have different goals.
You can choose whatever you think will make the most impact in your life.
No right or wrong answers here, friends.
Just a strong commitment to making the change. 🙂
Where did New Year’s resolutions come from?
Believe it or not, New Year’s resolutions are rooted in history.
They’re not just a recent phenomenon. They’ve been around for years and by years, I mean thousands of years.
4,000 years to be precise.
The earliest record we have currently have of the emergence of the tradition comes from the Babylonians, who recorded the practice of making oaths to the gods to pay their debts and return any objects they had borrowed. These oaths were made in the Babylonian New Year, which was held in March during the start of the planting season.
Like the Babylonians before them, the Romans too began each year (also initially in March in honour of the god of war but which slowly transitioned to January in honour of the god Janus) by making new promises and affirming old ones.
As Christianity spread and gained strength, New Year’s resolutions took on a decidedly religious flavour and also sometimes changed dates.
For example, history suggests that Christian knights took the peacock vow at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry. I can’t find any definite record about this so this seems more myth than history but who knows, really?
I like to keep an open mind about these things.
The concept of New Year’s resolutions isn’t reserved for Christians, though.
For instance, the period encompassing Judaism’s New Year, Rosh Hashanah, through the High Holidays that culminate in Yom Kippur (the Day of Atonement) is traditionally a period of reflection.
This is when people reflect upon their wrongdoings over the year.
This is when they seek as well as offer forgiveness.
In other words, New Year’s resolutions were an annual way to check up on one’s progress.
How to write your New Year’s Resolutions
Just like in affiliate marketing, blogging, network marketing or any other type of business, the success rate of New Year’s resolutions is abysmal.
98% fail.
Only 2% succeed.
In fact, about 80% give up on their resolutions by 12 January! That’s not even a month!
Which means that even with the best of intentions, chances are high that any change you wish to make will not happen by the time next December comes calling.
That’s quite sad and highly discouraging, isn’t it?
So, what are your options?
How do you set realistic New Year’s resolutions that you won’t fail at? What can you do to make sure you’re part of the 2% rather than the 98%?
Learn how to write your New Year’s resolutions to make the maximum positive impact in your life.
Treat it as a goal setting exercise rather than distinguishing between resolutions and goal settings.
Personally, I use New Year’s resolutions to reflect on everything that went right (and wrong) in the previous year and to then make a plan for the following year based on the information I gathered from the past.
This year, for example, I will be focusing on loving myself more and moving beyond my tendency to neglect myself in the pursuit of all the other drama (ahem, I mean dreams) that flavours my life.
If you want to know how to use New Year’s resolutions to love yourself and to make them so effective that you are finally able to design your best year ever (one more nod to the inimitable Mr Rohn), then join my process here and let’s get going together. 🙂
Step 1: Write it down.
Before you begin, commit to writing everything down.
According to a Stanford University study, people are far more likely to achieve their goals (or in this case, their New Year’s Resolutions) when they write them down. In fact, doing so increases the probability of them achieving it by over 70%.
That’s a massive improvement.
So, whatever it is you want, make sure to put it down in writing. And for maximum effect, write it as if it’s already in progress or has already been accomplished.
In other words, don’t just write that you want to lose weight.
You want to be clear, right?
So, a better and more effective New Year’s Resolution would be: I have lost 2 stones by this same time next year and I enjoyed the whole process.
See what I mean?
Step 2: Visualise
The Law of Attraction is like the Law of Gravity. You don’t need to believe in it for it to be true.
So, when you want to make a change, when you want your life to be better than it is now, when you want to be the best version of yourself, and you’re thinking of using New Year’s resolutions to achieve these, then I recommend creating an image of your best-case scenario in your mind.
Experience the outcome before you even begin writing things down.
Be specific. What exactly do you see happening? Use your imagination. Be as creative as you possibly can. Engage all your senses. And don’t hold back.
Be thorough. Use all your senses to imagine this future you’re designing just now. What does it look, feel and smell like? Do you hear any particular sounds when you’re thinking of this scenario? Is there a taste that reminds you of what you’ve set out to do?
Be gentle. Make sure to envision how gentle the whole process is. Even when change is welcomed, it can be painful.
So, visualise how your life is like and how you’re like when you’re going through this process of change.
Step 3: Set SMART goals.
When you’re thinking about what you want to see happening in your life, you need to make sure that you’re not sabotaging yourself by settling for second best simply because you think that what you want is unattainable.
Embrace simplicity.
Figure out what you want and give yourself a time frame. When do you want to achieve what you want?
Make goals of your resolutions.
Why?
According to Jim Rohn, “Goals are your vision of the future.“
We’re going back to the visualisation part of this process: Get clear on what you want and why you want it.
So, how do you set effective goals (AKA, for the purposes of this post, New Year’s Resolutions)?
Set SMART Goals.
SMART, in case you weren’t already aware, is an acronym and it stands for:
- Specific – Clearly define your goals. Want to lose weight? How many kilos exactly?
- Measurable – You need to be able to check if you’re meeting your goals so these need to be measurable. How do you know you’re actually losing or have lost weight? Go on a weighing scale. Get a measuring tape and start checking. Then, keep doing it until you hit your goal or your timeframe, whichever is sooner.
- Achievable – Write realistic goals instead of a pie in the sky promise. If you’ve never gone on a weight loss programme before, setting a goal of losting 5 stones in 5 months might be a bit much and might see you giving up the dream because it seems impossible.
- Relevant – Make sure that the resolutions you choose are relevant to you. It’s all well and good to want to lose weight – stat! – but if you’re pregnant or breastfeeding, it might not be in your best interest to start an intense workout complete with intermittent fasting.
- Time-Bound – Set yourself a deadline. You want to lose weight? Perfect. By when? According to Real Men Real Style, “A deadline creates a sense of urgency that inspires action. Set dates on your goals. A year is too long for a resolution. Break into smaller goals lasting 5 weeks or 100 days.“
What kind of goals do you need to be thinking about making?
Jim Rohn, of course, has got a few suggestions:
Personal goals.
Income goals.
Financial goals.
Health goals.
Spiritual goals.
Where do you want to go and what do you want to do?
What do you want to see and what do you want to be?
That’s it – the promise of the future.
Step 4: Get clear on your why.
Jim Rohn said, “The price is easy if the promise is clear.“
In other words, when you know why you want to change what you want to change, to improve what you want to improve, you’re far more likely to overcome any setbacks or obstacles that come your way.
If you know that sleeping early every night means you can wake up before anyone in the household and this means that you can work your side hustle until it gives you the freedom to resign from your 9-5 job, wouldn’t you be far more willing to do it?
Wouldn’t you make sure that you’re tucked in bed early in the evening and awake and ready to go by 5 or even 4 in the morning?
Surely, the knowledge that such a reward (that you chose for yourself, which means it’s intrinsic rather than imposed upon you externally), wouldn’t you ensure that you have a prioritised schedule to hand by the time morning comes so you don’t then waste time trying to decide what to do first?
For a resolution to stick, it must resonate with a higher purpose than just because it seems the fashionable thing to do.
People want to lose weight all the time and it’s quite possibly one of the most popular New Year’s resolutions out there. It’s also one that most people fail at – sometimes even before January ends.
Why?
Because people aren’t clear as to why they want it.
If you just want to lose weight because you’ve gained a lot of it over the holidays and you just want to shift it, then you might as well throw in the towel now.
“I want to lose weight because I want to lose weight” doesn’t really connect you to that well of determination that springs from passion. Whilst it may well be true, it doesn’t really do anything to improve your desire to actually do it.
I mean, does that reason – that why – excite you?
Does it make you want to wake up extra early and brave the gym?
Or, instead, does it make you want to groan in dread at this silly goal you’ve set for yourself?
A good why is clear.
It’s enticing and makes you think, “God, I can’t wait to do it!”
Maybe you want to lose weight so you look like your exceptionally fit self prior to kids (ahem, that’s me right there).
Or so that you start feeling young again?
Maybe you crave the energy that losing weight – and the accompanying activity: consistent exercise – brings you?
Or maybe, you’re planning that trip to Fiji that’s been sitting at the top of your bucket list since you were 20 and you obviously want to look good in a bikini for the millions of pictures you’ll be taking there.
Whatever your reason, make it clear. Make it exciting. And then don’t take your eyes off it.
Make your purpose strong enough to withstand a wobble here and there, to withstand external ridicule and pressure, to withstand your own resistance to change.
“Eyes on the prize” isn’t just a trite saying. It’s a great advice to help you succeed at whatever task you set out to do.
Margie Warrell wrote, “Connect your resolutions to those things that give you a deeper sense of purpose and align with your core values. When your resolutions connect to a deeper sense of purpose, it compels you not to think small or play safe, but to dig deep and stay the course when the going gets tough – no matter how many hurdles.“
Step 5: Set yourself up for success.
Sometimes it seems like we’re doomed to fail and honestly, if you’re environment is full of naysayers or you’re wanting to lose weight but you have nothing but junk food in your house, then no amount of willpower in the world can help you.
You’ll end up sabotaging yourself and failing the goal – sometimes, even before you start.
Never underestimate the importance of a strong support network to your success.
This could take the form of the people around you or it could be the routines and habits you’ve set up for yourself.
Do what you can to ensure that it’s all but impossible for you to fail.
Create a colour-coded progress chart on Excel.
Get an accountability partner, a trainer or a coach.
Join a group.
If your goal is to lose weight, then make sure you get rid of all temptations in your house and fill it with healthy yet delicious alternatives.
And what about those toxic naysayers who do nothing but try to tear you down?
Set your boundaries. Ensure they’re firm.
And then minimise contact. Or avoid them altogether.
You do you boo.
Step 6: Go public.
I don’t know about you but when I set a goal, I tend to keep it secret for fear that telling someone else would jinx it.
Most of the time, I don’t tell people what I’m doing until it’s already been accomplished.
Many of the people I know are exactly the same.
Why is that?
Doesn’t that show just how little we think of ourselves and of others?
Most people want to help so shouldn’t we all be very open about our dreams and ambitions? Allow other people the opportunity to be of service?
But no, unfortunately, that’s not the case.
I suppose, it’s got something to do with fear.
Failing is bad enough when you’re the only one to know that it’s happened.
But fail when the whole world is watching?
Absolutely horrific.
Of course, you don’t actually have to announce to the whole world what you’re doing. But you do need to tell somebody who will hold you accountable, who will check your progress and who will not be judgemental or mocking when you make mistakes (trust us, you don’t need that when you’re going after your dreams).
You need support and encouraging words so your accountability partner should act accordingly.
The last thing you need is someone who says, “I knew you couldn’t do it. I told you so,” when you encounter a setback.
Ain’t nobody got time for that!
Step 7: Prioritise.
Ever heard of the saying, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.“?
Yeah.
That’s also true when you’re trying to write down effective New Year’s resolutions.
Start small.
Don’t try to change your whole life or just the thought of what you have to do will defeat you.
Why?
Because changing your life is daunting, that’s why. It immediately makes you think of ceaseless and backbreaking effort.
Who wants to spend the rest of their life toiling with no rest?
Nobody!
Besides, you only have 24 hours in a day.
You need to focus on the things that matter most to make sure they get done. Trust me on this one, I’m practically an expert on failing to tick off boxes because everything is equally important.
Go back to Jim Rohn’s advice on transforming your life, “A few simple disciplines practiced every day.“
So, what do you do?
Set yourself up for success and start by choosing one super important New Year’s Resolution to focus on by the time 1 January comes barrelling through.
Don’t cheat! Just choose one.
Make it big and maybe even all-encompassing but don’t choose multiples.
Let’s go back to our example: “I have lost 2 stones by this same time next year and I enjoyed the whole process.”
This is your overarching New Year’s Resolution so don’t add another completely different one like “I am repaying £25,000 in debt all in one year!”
Imagine the many changes, the many daily disciplines, you need to get both going.
Again, choose one and stick with it.
Then, break it down.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite a time, remember?
So, what discipline can you commit to each day that will result in you shifting that weight?
Will you eat an apple a day, every day?
Walk around the block for at least an hour every day – rain or shine?
This is your call.
Be simple and straightforward.
Simple means you’re more likely to do it.
If you overcomplicate it, chances are you’ll probably give up before you really get started.
And then, pull a Nike and just do it.
Step 8: Reflect.
I’m going to be doing some heavy quoting from Jim Rohn’s seminar in this section on reflection (see above video) because he’s got a way with words that’s simply unsurpassed.
Starting from 2:39:35, he explains the importance of reflection. You can play the video along to really cement the points he made.
Side Note: Everything that Jim Rohn said, I’ll italicise. Some of these quotes are self-explanatory, so I’ll leave those alone.
Others are also easy to understand but for which I have some additional points to make, so I’ll write them down in normal text. If you haven’t watched the video, I encourage you to do so (link above) and enjoy the thought process of one of the greatest thinkers of our times.
One of the five abilities of personal development that Jim Rohn talks about in his seminar is the ability to reflect.
Reflect means go back over.
Study it again.
Go back over these notes that you’re taking today. Go back through the cassettes one more time. Read the text one more time.
But more than reviewing the information you’ve collected – consciously or inadvertently, he also tells us to go back over our day.
Run the tapes again, he said, so you can fully capture the essence of your day. So you can really get from the day rather than just get through it.
Good times to reflect
Whilst you can certainly reflect any time you wish to do so, there are some periods of your life that are more conducive to reflection and introspection.
I gotta say, as a work at home mother to a high-needs and highly energetic toddler in this day and age of competing responsibilities, my time for reflection and introspection is hard-won.
It’s not an easy task to embark on reflection when you’re being pulled in a thousand different directions so I do my best to follow Jim Rohn’s recommendation on the best times to reflect. See if you can use them too.
At the end of the day
Take a few minutes at the end of the day.
Go back over the day.
Who’d you see and what’d they say? And what happened?
How’d you feel?
What went on?
So that you capture that day.
A day is a piece of the mosaic of your life.
He emphasises the importance of capturing what happens to your life – the scents, the sights, the taste, the feeling and the sounds.
Of being fully present instead of just trying to get through it.
And this is what reflection at the end of each day does.
Go back over the day so that it locks in that experience, the knowledge, the sights, the sounds, the panorama, the colour motion picture of the day. Just lock it in.
So that it will serve you for the future – having that day, not missing it.
At the end of the week
Take a few hours at the end of the week, called time to reflect.
Go back over your day time or go back over your calendar. Go back over your appointment book.
Where did you go and who did you see and how did it feel and what went on?
Capture that week.
A week is a pretty good chunk of time.
At the end of the month
Take half a day at the end of the month, called time to reflect and do the same thing again.
Go back over what you read; go back over what you heard; go back over what you saw; go back over the feelings to capture it so that it serves you.
At the end of the year
Take a weekend at the end of the year to establish this year now firmly in your consciousness, firmly in your experience bank so that you’ve got it, so that it never disappears.
Why is reflection important?
Good ability to acquire, the ability to reflect.
Go back over.
Remember.
It’s so valuable to be able to remember the thought, the idea, the experience, the occasion, the day, the weather, the emotion, the complexity, the highs, the lows.
So valuable at the end of the day.
Lock that day in, lock the month in, lock the week in, lock the year in.
I have to admit that I have an on-again off-again relationship with the process of reflection, mostly because I struggle with a bit of OCD (understatement of the year) and whenever I make a mistake whilst writing on my paper journal, it’s like my brain freezes.
It can’t get over the fact that I have to use a white out.
That doesn’t actually even work because my journal is cream rather than white so a white out just makes the area stand out more.
Often, I tear off the page and start again or I just give up mid-way instead of finishing my thought.
It’s only this year that I’m starting to get past this.
Unfortunately, I still haven’t managed to let myself read my entries too many times because I always have mistakes there – which obviously gets in the way of reflecting.
My memory currently isn’t as good as it used to be so I do have to rely on the things I wrote in order to properly capture the past.
Eventually, I’m sure I’ll figure out a way to engage in this process with the least amount of fuss.
Might start an online journal at some point (hello, another blog???).
If I do, I’ll let you know. 🙂
Anyway, here’s another reason why developing the ability to reflect is so important: To make the past more valuable to serve you for the future.
Here’s what’s really powerful: learning to gather up the past and invest it in the future.
Gather up today and invest it in tomorrow, gather up this week and invest it in the next week, gather up this year and invest it in the next year.
See, that’s so powerful rather than just hanging on one more year, hanging in there, seeing what’s going to happen.
Learn. Study. This is part of the personal development quest.
Becoming better than you are, more valuable.
Work on yourself, then you bring more value.
How to reflect on your life
So, what is the master business philosopher saying about actually reflecting on your life?
According to Jim Rohn, there are times when you can engage in reflection with another person. As you do with a partner, a work colleague, a peer or with your children, for example.
You can all look at what’s happened in the past (you can use the same questions he recommended in the previous sections) and lock all that experience in.
Then, together you can dream. You can visualise what you want to see show up in your future. And you can make plans together to help you all make that vision reality.
It makes for a more cooperative, cohesive and invested unit.
That said, there is something special about doing the process on your own.
Here’s the most important: You’ve got to learn how to reflect with yourself.
There’s something to be said for solitude.
There’s something to be said for taking those occasions to shut out the world and shut out everything else for a while.
Solitude, according to Jim Rohn, is the “chance to reflect, to go back over my life, go back over my skills, go back over my experiences.”
Alone.
There’s some things you need to do alone.
Ponder.
Think.
Wonder.
Read.
Study.
Absorb.
Soak in.
See if you can’t become better this year than you were last year. Better the next nine than you were the first nine.
Solitude.
Step 9: Make a plan.
Once you know where you currently are and what you have to work with (AKA your baseline), it’s time to make a plan for the future.
Remember, this doesn’t have to be too difficult.
It can be challenging but it doesn’t have to be difficult.
Jim Rohn says that the formula for success is simple: A few simple disciplines practiced every day.
That’s it.
Once you know what you need to be doing to achieve your goal (of better health, financial freedom etc), then all you have to do is decide what you need to do to achieve it.
You want better health?
- Break it down into small chunks that you can do every day:
- Sleep before midnight.
- Eat an apple a day.
- Walk around the block every single day to get your heart rate up.
- Meditate for at least 10 minutes.
Then do it.
One chunk at a time.
Every. Single. Day.
If you have to, use your phone’s alarm to remind you of any new tasks or habits that you have to form and which won’t come naturally yet.
I use The Fabulous app.
Otherwise, I’ll never remember.
Keep doing this until the change becomes a habit you now cannot live without.
It can take between 2 to 8 months for the habit to stick so keep going.
If you really want to achieve your goal, don’t quit.
Step 10: Reflect. Again.
This whole process of using New Year’s resolutions effectively and judiciously comes full circle with step 10’s another reflection.
Check if you’re sail is set to the direction you wish to go.
Do this often.
Follow Jim Rohn’s advice.
Check at the end of every day, the end of every week, the end of every month and the end of every year.
Gather every information up and use them, invest them in the next day, the next week, the next month, the next year.
Make sure that the numbers match, that you’re getting the results you want, that the seeds you’ve planted are growing.
If yes, keep doing what you’ve been doing.
If not, then there are a few things you need to remember.
Remember to be gentle with yourself.
Of course, in the end, you need to remember to be gentle with yourself.
Perfection isn’t the aim here. Striving for perfection is.
You don’t get bonus points for beating yourself up because you didn’t get to make the change you wanted immediately.
Remember that setbacks are inevitable.
You’ll need to learn to accept that setbacks will happen, even though that’s so hard, I know.
I’m a recovering perfectionist.
Heck, you’re talking to the person who can’t finish a journal because she made a mistake and had to use a whiteout.
So, realise that setbacks are normal and they happen to the best of people, even with the best of intentions.
What can you do if you experience a setback?
Feel your feelings.
Let’s face it. There are experiences in this life that suck big time. Failing is one of them. Rejection is another. You’re lucky if all you feel is a bit of a sting.
If this setback is about something you really want, then not getting it is going to do more than sting.
It’s gonna feel incredibly discouraging and if you experience it too often, it can cause you to lose hope.
So, it’s vital that when you exprience setbacks, you take the time to process it (hello, journal time!)
And to pretend that it’s okay when it really isn’t will just make things worse.
Seriously.
Evaluate what happened.
Engage both sides of your brain.
What went wrong?
How can you mitigate this setback?
What can you do better, moving forward?
Make another plan, a better plan.
And then re-commit to doing it.
Try again.
Once you have that in place, try again.
Keep doing.
Keep going.
Don’t give up.
Step 11: Celebrate your successes.
On your way to your ultimate goal, you’ll encounter setbacks, yes, but also, smaller wins.
How often do you actually pause to savour the moment?
Do you pat yourself on the back for a job well done, tell yourself how proud you are of this achievement?
If you’re like me, you just cross that small win off your to-do list and then keep going – not even bothering to stop awhile and really enjoy your success.
Based on personal experience, I can guarantee that that’s a recipe for overwhelm and burnout.
Move away from that.
You know what you can do?
Do as Jack Canfield advises and try this exercise:
Step One: Every night, look at yourself in the mirror.
Step Two: Smile. Really feel the pleasure.
Step Three: Start giving yourself compliments.
Step Four: Do this every night until praising yourself becomes second nature.
You might say, “Oh, but I don’t want to become arrogant or narcisstic.”
Whilst I agree that there are some who might be in danger of crossing over and start lording their successes over other people, for many, that’s not the case.
Too often, we don’t acknowledge how well we’re doing.
We’re too busy criticising ourselves that we don’t really notice when we actually experience a win.
Trust me, this alone will fuel your motivation like no other and push you towards bigger and better goals.
Final thoughts on how to write your New Year’s Resolutions
To recap, New Year’s resolutions – a tradition practised by many other societies before ours – are decisions you make at the start of a new year to start or stop doing something that has an impact on your life.
Usually regarded as whistling in the wind, it’s gotten a bad rap through the years because most people fail to achieve what they set out to do.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way so long as you follow the process below:
- Write it down.
- Visualise.
- Set SMART goals.
- Get clear on your why.
- Set yourself up for success.
- Go public.
- Prioritise.
- Reflect.
- Make a plan.
- Reflect again.
- Celebrate your successes.
So, to write your New Years’ Resolutions, follow the process outlined above.
Then, be honest with yourself. What is it exactly that you want to change, to improve?
By it’s very nature, a New Year’s resolution is going to be highly subjective.
After all, what’s important to me may mean nothing to you.
And vice-versa.
That’s completely fine.
In fact, it’s to be expected.
Side Note: You’re asking the wrong question if you’re on this post looking for answers to the following questions: “what should my New Year’s resolution be?” or “What are good New Year resolutions?”.
Because then, you’re actually looking for what other people want to do with your life.
Instead of you deciding what to do with yours.
Visualise the future you wish. And visualise the process that will allow you to bring it to life.
Again (and I’ll keep writing this until my fingers cramp up), follow the process in the previous section.
It won’t steer you wrong.
Finally, whilst you are obviously in full control of what you want to do next in your life, I strongly recommend that you make the space to focus on cultivating self love. It doesn’t have to be your overarching resolution.
It doesn’t even have to be part of your New Year’s resolution this coming year but, at some point in the future, I firmly believe everyone should write their own Self Love New Year’s Resolutions.
It’s an essential part of life.
And that’s all there is to writing New Year’s Resolutions that you can actually stick to.
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I always set resolutions I never keep so I think I need to start setting more measurable goals!
Yes, that is the secret! 🙂 Enjoy and do let us know how you get on this year. x
I love reading posts about new year resolutions. It’s great to read about different perspectives and it also helps me to reflect on my own year.
Thanks, Nadia! Hope you have fun with the process. 🙂
thanks sharing about new year resolution, very detailed. Hope you can continue writing great post like this in the future.
Thank you! I’ll be sure to keep on churning out helpful posts for people. 🙂
I agree I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting. My new year’s goal is to be a vegetarian and starting a business. I’m both excited and scared at the same time.
Those are exciting goals and this is an exciting time to start them. 🙂 Good luck and hope you enjoy the process of creating anew.
great tips. i’m def going to try and do better this year for sure.
Thank you for stopping by and we hope you enjoy the process of creating your best year ever! 🙂
Really well-written; great detail! I am impressed by your dedication to self-betterment. I just did a post recently on 40 things that I want to do before I’m 40 (now 35), so I totally understand the idea of reflecting at the end of the year. I do the same around birthdays! Good luck!
Thanks, Krista! I’m also 35 – maybe it’s a magic number. 🙂 And I love the idea of doing this around birthdays too. I’ll need to put that in my planner so I don’t forget.
This is a cool New Years resolution post! Never have heard of Jim Rohn, but I love all of his work that I’ve read so far. So encouraging, I usually don’t write a resolution, just tell it. Now I want to write a New Years resolution. All the information you have shared makes so much sense so it will be a lot easier to write one.
So here goes: My Health is Restored, I’m caring for and loving myself again.
Thank you!
You’re welcome and good on you for taking your health in hand. 🙂
PS. Jim Rohn is the best!
This is a great reminder for me. I need to revise my New Year’s resolution.
You’re welcome. Glad this post has helped out and thanks for stopping by.
Hi Jade. I found this article very useful and important because it came at the right time. The end of 2019 has 🐝 am amazing one for means I am excited how my 2020 would look like. So I have a major goal for 2020 which is to set up a business (an online business) and I am so excited about it. I know it wouldn’t be easy moving forward but I am ready. I have made some plans on how to get money for it. As a matter of fact, I have gotten more than half of it and I am almost getting to the peak of what I needed to get the tool to get started.
Thanks for your tips with which I can do better.
You’re welcome and I’m happy to know that you found our post helpful. Good luck with your venture. 🙂
Great discussion on New Year’s resolution. With 2020 drawing near, I have a lot to reflect on what I did for my life goals, especially in the area of growing my online business. I was hoping it would take flight this year, but it didn’t so clearly I need to revisit what was lacking in my strategies. What got me here yesterday isn’t what’s going to get me there tomorrow. Something has to change and a lot of reflection will be needed for that.
Cathy, you hit the nail on the head there. I think the greatest value of reflection is that it gives you knowledge and power. I hope you find the answer you’re looking for. 🙂
I try not to make new year’s resolutions because it would somewhat bother me if I do not keep them, but I do need to take more time to reflect and maybe that would help focus a lot more and break down the resolutions so it is not such a daunting feat to keep.
Thanks for commenting, Serena. You’re right, it can be quite intimidating – especially the thought that we’ll have to do something major for the rest of your life. I find that it helps when I think of Jim Rohn’s description of success: “a few simple disciplines practised every day.” A lot easier to take in. 😉
Interesting article on New Years Resolutions,. New Years is almost here, so many will be doing that, making New Years Resolutions. I do not do that though, I believe Today is the First day of the Rest of my life. I do that
I did not know that New years Resolutions were four thousand years old, somehow I thought it was an American thing, I was wrong..
I Love your thoughts on Reflection. I do that a lot. I do it a lot in prayer, and meditation. I Love Self Improvement.
Thanks for sharing, Phil. You’re right. It’s possible to change at any moment we wish and change our lives. That said, the end and beginning of the year are quite poignant for many people and have powerful symbolic power. As the title goes, though, you do you boo. Good luck and enjoy the process. 🙂
Super helpful this time of year! Great tips
Thanks 🙂
This is a really helpful post which will surely help people to make New Years resolutions that they can keep to. I always take time to reflect when it comes to the end of the year.
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing your experience. I personally have not take the time to reflect as often as I need to. Sometimes, life gets in the way and I forget but I am definitely getting better and more consistent about it. When I do, the results are phenomenal so I always recommend reflection. 🙂
Loved reading this! Thinkin’ hard my resolutions this year!
Thank you for popping by with your kind words. Enjoy the process!
Over the years I’ve given up making resolutions but with the new decade upon us I’m feeling little differently this year. Great post!
Thank you. Do let us know how you get on. 🙂
I try to set goals instead of resolutions now days so I don’t get down on myself if I fail. I’m human and I fail a lot. Small goals are more reachable to me.
Hi Ashley, working with your own strengths and weaknesses always yields the best results. I personally don’t distinguish between the two and that mindset helps me. For some people, going for a higher dream makes it more exciting whilst for others, focusing on the simple ways to achieve these dreams work better. There are no right or wrong answers here as all of us are moving on individual paths.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and we hope you enjoy the process! 🙂
I started to think about my new year goals. So important to write them down and each month see how you are doing with them
Yes! The writing down helps a tonne! 🙂
i try my hardest not to make any resolutions as i know that i end up feeling bad that i did not manage to achieve them x
I can understand what you mean. I’m a recovering perfectionist so if I don’t get something precisely when and how I want it, I really feel like a failure. It’s something I’m constantly working on as I do need goals to perform well at all. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Jade
This was such a lovely and informative post Jade! I am in the process of making my New Year’s resolutions and this is really helping me to formulate my list. It was also interesting to learn where New Years Resolutions originated from.
Thanks for your comment, Sue-Tanya and we’re so happy that you find it helpful. Hope you enjoy making your resolutions for 2020. 🙂
Great post and the section on the power of attraction is great! It helps us to slow down a little and reflect.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. The power of attraction is a subject close to my heart. 🙂
I love New Years Resolutions, but realistically I do not keep going with them for the whole year. This year I am determined to do so. It is so important to make sure your goals are SMART. If they are not measurable it will be hard to track your progress.
Enjoy and good luck, Natasha! It’s great fun, isn’t it? 🙂
I never made a list of intentions for the fear of not being able to keep them. What do you say it’s time to change perspective?
I completely agree! Enjoy this year’s process. 🙂
Jade
Doing a simple, basic review of your year makes all the difference Kevin and Jade. I am all about the moment but do review months and years, spotting patterns, getting clearer going forward. Excellent points.
Ryan
As usual, Ryan, you are spot on. Thank you for popping by and sharing your thoughts with us. 🙂
oh my gosh i could not agree more with this! i love making new lists but def thinking more goal then just resolutions!
Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Cait. Love that our thoughts meshed on this. 🙂
This is an amazing post. I don’t think you could have been any more detailed about Resolutions than this. Maybe this year, I’ll finally keep mine!
Yay, glad we could help! More power and good luck!