Santa - should you tell your child there is no santa

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  1. The issue of Santa is really not an easy one to deal with. I like the way you have approached this discourse. One thing i have noticed is that kids really tend to depend on Santa for their preferred gifts during the holidays. This is very nice and I totally agree that whatever it is, the kids should know the true story about Santa and every parent should be very careful when they are telling so as not to iie about it. NIce one here!

  2. It takes patience and proper dissemination to ensure that one can break such news as this particular one to kids. Often times, they will not take it lightly that one has been lying to them all along and some might even flare up that they refuse to believe hat Santa does not exist. However, seeing all that you have addressed here, it should become much easier to tell them without having to add lies for them. Since they are kids, breaking it down would require to use practical examples for them to understand well enough.

  3. Wow! You have really done a detailed overview of the Christmas period in relation to Santa and you have opened my eyes to so many things. Though I maintained the lies of Santa till my kid grew up to really know that Santa was coming from nowhere and that it is only a myth. How I wish I came across this earlier, it would have saved me quiet a lot more in terms of being truthful with my son and also maintaining a reasonable cost

    1. You’re welcome and thank you for the kind words. It’s a tricky subject though, isn’t it? We just want to protect our children’s innocence and make sure they enjoy the magic that having to explain who Santa really sometimes does feel like bursting a balloon.

      Thanks for stopping by.

  4. My sister’s teachers actually made all this really simpler for us at home because she sat down and spent the whole day explaining to the students the difference between santa and the Saint. I was glad because she came home excited to explain to us. I think that more schools should do that. I was able to learn a few things about santa from here as well and that’s perfect. On the discourse, I think the parents should explain truthfully and say why they have to see that Santa on their movies. Nice article you put out here.

  5. I think that the kids instinctively know that Santa isn’t an actual human being once they get to a certain age. When I was six, I began to suspect something when a book that was in my stocking had a price tag on it. Still, part of me has never really stopped believing in Santa. I always look at the Santa tracker on Christmas Eve, even though I don’t have any children. Maybe it’s something to do with the spirit of St. Nicholas traveling over the earth during the Christmas season. 

    1. You’re right. And then, of course, there’s always the playground gossip and someone saying that Santa isn’t real. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  6. Love how much information you put into this post! This is such a tough decision. My husband has the best memories growing up so it’s super important to him that our kids believe in santa. Personally, I would rather just stick to the message of generosity and would be fine without Santa but so far it’s been good πŸ™‚

    1. Thanks for commenting, Adriane. It is tough, isn’t it?

      I still remember when I found out that Santa isn’t real. I recognised my mother’s handwriting from Santa’s letter on Christmas day! Needless to say, it was the worst Christmas ever. It’s one of the reasons why I’m so torn now with my son.

      That said, I put the North Pole on my bucket list because I’m still hoping that Santa is there. haha And I’m already in my mid-30s and know that there are no jolly bearded man climbing down chimneys but the magic is still there, I guess. πŸ™‚

      I personally think that the way we handle Santa when he seems very real is more important than the reveal itself. Like, if we’re using Santa as a disciplinary tool, it’s easier for kids to feel manipulated and lied to. Whereas if we emphasise Santa as boundless generosity and love, it’s easier to accept.

      PS. I’m going to go look if there are any scientific studies about Santa and update this post if I find any. πŸ˜€

  7. I don’t have any children and was on the fence about this issue if I do have them. You made some very valid points. The truth is the best way to go. But I will try not to judge parents that choose the commercialized Santa route!

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